Wednesday, July 31, 2013

My Final Goodbye

I say final, because she died yesterday in her own bed at home, peacefully. But I might very well still post a Patty Story from time to time. My way of keeping her memory alive.

This photo taken Janurary 2013. We celebrated our birthdays with each other over decadent desserts often at this favorite ice cream shop. Never on the exact date, but when we could get together and it was always sweet.

So here's the last of the hot fudge sundae get togethers Patty. My toast to you, cheers, dear sweet, wonderful, reliable friend. I miss you already. I will love you forever and ever!

Here's the first of the memories:

Memories of my life with Patty

Earliest memories are playing together as really young children; at her house (doll house, sitting on the living room floor choosing pieces of furniture, animals, people and building our own little worlds on the floor. I always wanted the white cat (like my cat Doc.) and she always wanted the orange cat (Like her cat, Tommy). We played JACKS on that same floor on the hardware floor between the living and dining room carpets. Her sister Ester joined us too. I remember being in her bed room as little kids. I remember the picture of Jesus that we could take into the closest and see his eyes glow in the dark. I remember eating breakfast there after a sleep over and not liking the oatmeal. I think I once fainted so I didn’t have to eat it. Patty’s mom looked large to me, overwhelming. I think I was a little bit afraid of her. Her name was Pearl. She had a sewing machine on the sun porch and stacks of fabric. And a shelf up high that ran the circumference of the room that was lined with Cupie dolls and other artifacts.


  1. So very sorry for your loss. I feel her loss thru you too. I know she appreciated you just as much as you did her and you brought her great joy too. We would love to hear more Patty stories. Her memory will always be as sweet as she was. xoxo

  2. I am happy you will keep posting *Patty Stories*... friendships like you two had are rare and wonderful.. I love your *Jesus' glowing eyes* comment...see, we Catholics DO have a sense of humour! As I said, our faiths and beliefs in an Afterlife differ... BUT..Patty has not left you... she resides within your heart - forever....and those of us who shared some of your *Adventures* will continue to relish your posts about this wonderful woman!

    Love and Strength,

    ♥ Robin ♥

  3. There are no words for this time. But bringing back memories of Patty makes her life more meaningful. I love what you wrote, and how you have honored her. Bless you in this time of sorrow.

  4. So sorry Lynn. I can't believe that in such a short time (from your photo here in January) to now that Patty has gone. Now the process of accepting it begins for her family and friends. I do hope you will post about Patty from time to time, it will nice to read about your friendship.

    1. Ann, as far as we knew in January , patty was perfectly healthy.
      She was diagnosed in June with inoperable lung cancer. She had one chemo treatment several weeks later.then developed a blood clot, which led to a heart attack from which she had to be revived. Then a week or so to recoup from all that. Then one more chemo tx. Three weeks later a CAT scan, only to learn the chemo had not changed her tumor. In fact it was worse. So from June to end July a fast decline and death!
      So you can see it was much less time to be shocked by all this...mind boggling ....still swirling.

  5. There are people who come into our life and leave us special gifts, you have loved and been loved by Patty, as you start to remember the things that were joy filled, this pain will become less, and your thoughts will be filled with all the little things that made her so easy to love. I will continue to pray for your heart. Love, Mary

  6. Touching and I mourn with you. May your memories help you.

  7. It's unbelievable how fast this all happened, what a shock to you and her family.

    These stories are lovely,therapeutic and enchanting to read. Keep it up

  8. I'm so sorry to hear about your dear friend passing and I hope you will take comfort In knowing you will see her again some day.

  9. As a reader I am thankful to be able to read about a friendship over 72 years. I will enjoy every story you share

    I imagine patty is pain free and surrounded by glorious light...


  10. I do remember that picture with the birthday treats! I´m so sorry for your loss. I know what it is to loose a lifelong friend suddenly. {hug}

  11. Such poignant memories you sorry about Patty. I'm so glad you will keep Patty's beautiful memory alive on your blog. You were so fortunate to have shared such a long enduring friendship, it's a rare and beautiful thing to stay in touch with people through that many decades!! Such a blessing what you had, and the memories you still have! I hope talking and writing about Patty is cathartic for you!!

    Sending love and hugs

  12. I am saddened by your loss, Lynn, but touched by your account of the wonderful early childhood memories you have of your friendship. I have a friend I have known since before first grade. I can imagine the huge hole in your life in Patty's passing. So glad you found comfort in your restaurant friends.

  13. Lynn, I sorry you've lost your lifelong friend. Patty will always be around for you. ::hugs:: I will read your memories of Patty and how lovely if a book were to come of it with your drawings of her. Sending you happy thoughts.

  14. I wish you peace of mind and that you recognize just how wealthy you are with such friendships as you have had with Patty and the two other dear ones you have told about earlier. Imagine that there are people who are not gifted with such friends.
    And Patty is at rest now, no worries and no pain.
    Sending you hugs and love

    Ilona xx

  15. Dear Lynn,
    I'm deeply sadden for your loss of your dearest friend, Patty. May the peace of the Lord be with you and comfort you in your sorrow. ((hugs)) Suzy

  16. I feel your pain. The memories I have had with my best girlfriends. . .you bring them all back. Mom had a statue of Jesus that glowed in the dark. . . I remember that now. God Bless you. Love and Blessings, Janet

  17. Oh Lynn, so very sad but uplifting too! I'm so sorry you lost such a dear friend, but glad you both had such a wonderful time together!

  18. wonderful memories about you and Patty. Such a special relationship. So sad. Yes so beautiful that your remember and tell the stories of her life.

  19. Your stories and sentiments of your friend are so beautiful. Sending lots of love your way X

  20. Oh, Lynn! I am so sorry about your friend, Patty! Very sad news. I am just getting over to your blog. (Not blogging much these days). Hugs to you.
    xoxo- Julie


Thanks for leaving your comments as I love hearing from you. Your words of encouragement are why I continue to draw!